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What Is Your Favorite 'How To' or 'Why' Kink Book?


Hello all,

I went through a how to phase early in my adult life after accpeting that these kinky impulses were a part of my life. That led to a why phase.  Many books were read, including Different Loving, and Screw the Roses Give Me the Thorns.

What is your favorite book in the how to or why genre?  Nowadays, maybe I should ask what is your favorite website?

Is there a reference in this area that you believe is the current state of the art and what is it?


The best one of the very few I've seen is "Imaginative Sex" by John Norman, author of the Gor series.

Many of the "How" books on the market have good information but often seem more for titillation rather than information. I've tried several and consider Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook a pretty good how-to reference.

I've yet to find a good source of "Why" information.

One book comes to mind immediately. I wanted to better uderstand Domination and Submission and bought Michael Makai's book of that title.
It is quite straight forward in my opinion, nothing fancy or flowery.

The definitive handbook on Domination and Submission (D/s) relationships and the BDSM lifestyle. A must-read for anyone considering or curious about non-traditional relationships within a fetish culture context. Funny, insightful, educational, and inspiring.

Author Michael Makai goes in-depth on Dominants, submissives, switches, primals, and their relationship dynamics. Learn about BDSM activities, bondage, toys, groups, protocols, and safety. This book even dares to go where others fear to tread: Primal relationships, online BDSM relationships, the Gorean subculture, first meetings, religion vs. kink, and the many ways it can all go wrong.

You'll love Michael Makai's irreverent and humorous treatment of this subject as he gives you the benefit of his 35+ years of experience in the D/s and BDSM blurb borrowed from Amazon



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