kink and fetishes: fantasy or lived experience?

[Observer]

Hello

In another thread, I wondered about the "experience level" of the readers and writers here with bondage, rubber, fetishes etc etc (I'll use "kink" as an umbrella term). I also wondered about people's "comfort level" with their own kinks.

So... what is kink to you?  Is a fantasy only?  Something you want to experience one day?  Or something you have dabbled with?  Made an important part of your life?

And is it something you are at ease with, or does it trouble you?  How well do you accept your sexuality?

I have been very fortunate that I learned to accept who I was in my early 20s and have made latex, bondage etc a big part of my life.  At this very moment, I am writing in a hotel, at the end of a big rubber convention (MIRXXX) where I got to wear a lot of latex, meet other rubberists and have a great time.

But I've come to realize that I have no idea if this perspective is common or rare here...

[Eido]

Hello Observer, to your first question, I'm going with all of the above, depending on the year. I have been around long enough that my kinks have been just a fantasy, something I wanted to experience some day, then dabbled with, and they became important to me. Somewhere in that important phase, I realized that they weren't that important in comparison to other things in life, and I went back to dabbling.

Again. At one time I thought I was okay with them. Then they became troubling to me. Finally I reached a point where I just quit caring. I don't think of my kinks as my sexuality. They are/were accessories to play around with.

Bad things happened to me, and I think that has influenced my attitude, unconsciously at first, then with deliberation. I am genuinely glad to read that you are in the group for which kinks are a great time. I hope it is always so for you.

Eido