And the moral of this story:
If you have developed a taste for submission, and have a strong conscious/unconscious need to be dominated, any kind of plan to use bondage or domination to punish others has an uncanny tendency to backfire.
If you plan to use it on somebody who might rationally be expected to be less confident or domineering than yourself, it will definitely backfire double.
There needs to be a bumper-sticker with this vital information on it, so that fewer subs will accidentally end up in the thrall of their younger sisters, daughters, nieces, adopted children, etc., because honestly, that is icky.
Maybe we could have a competition to write one?