Poll
Question:
If you're looking for a relationship, single or newly single, and prospects arose without bdsm being an option; would you?
Option 1: Hook up; any lovin' is good lovin'.
votes: 0
Option 2: Hook up and try for a little coercion.
votes: 2
Option 3: Move on and hope to find someone else into kink.
votes: 4
Option 4: Other. Please Explain.
votes: 0
You've been looking to get into a relationship. You like fetishes/bdsm and have always wanted a partner who liked it too. But, a person catches your eye that has expressed no desire in a kinky relationship. What would you do? If you have another idea than what I have offered, please choose other and explain what it is in a post.
I have been in several 'vanilla' relationships and they left me always wanting something more. Not so much as to make me 'move on' or engage in an extramarital affair but I always wished for more.
Dana
As someone who took the "no kink" at the start here is my experience. I got into this relationship, initially just as progression of a close friendship. Bondage and even sex were the farthest things from my mind. I have been lucky enough to find an open minded partner. If I were to do it again though, it would probably wouldn't be a deal breaker. Bondage for me, is a physical interest. At the end of the day, I want to be with someone I enjoy on more than a physical level. If we don't share a kink, that is a small thing to me, like having different tastes in music.
I would be out in the open with your kinks and/or quirks soon after you start talking with someone that you seem to have feelings for. If she/he doesn't like or even want to entertain the notions of any of your kinks then move on and find another person more open. I had to suppress mine in my first marriage because she didn't want to do anything bdsm related. Part of the reason our marriage ended in a divorce. Now I am open with it in hopes that I can find a partner/friend/lover who likes it just as much as I do.